Is this a universal phenomenon? Rivka posts about arriving at a synagogue event and being told that seats are taken, unavailable. More about uncomfortable feelings resulting from seats not being available here. I certainly have felt that way at times.
How does it feel when you walk in a room, and there appears to be enough seats, but then everyone you ask says they are being saved? Is this a bad dream? Or does it happen too often? Or are some of us “too sensitive”?
Unfortunately, however, this is amorphous and not something people talk about in public. It is certainly not the type of discussion that goes on at a synagogue board meeting (more likely to be fundraising, furnace, roof-fixing). And I am not suggesting it should be. But perhaps that is a good use for a blog… publicly stating those abstract, murky, undefinable feelings one gets in certain situations.