We got a pamphlet in the mail called The Peaceful Home: Thoughts & Insights of Rav Pam zt”l on the topic of Shalom Bayis. (Shalom Bayis means Peace in the Home). Now, with all due respect to Rav Pam zt”l, I want to present one of the topics in the book, and see if you, my readers, can help this couple by making suggestions of how this situation could have been better handled:
A young wife has spent much time and thought preparing a special delicacy that she knows her husband enjoys. She expects him home for dinner at six o’clock. It is 6:15 and then 6:30 and he still hasn’t come. What happened to him? Meanwhile the dinner is getting cold. Should she reheat it for the third time, thereby diminishing its good taste? She turns the flame on and then a few minutes later turns it off again. Finally, at 7:00, the husband walks in. “What happened?” asks the wife. “Oh, nothing,” he replies, “it’s just that my friend needed a ride to the airport and I got a big mitzvah by taking him…”
How could this situation have been better handled? What could the husband or wife have done differently? I’m curious to hear what you have to say. I don’t care if you were raised in the Galapagos Islands by Zulu warriors, I’m interested to hear your thoughts on this situation.