At this time of year it is customary for Jews to ask forgiveness of one another. Here are two posts on this topic:
Larry: Who Asks For Forgiveness
A Simple Jew: Asking Forgiveness Before Yom Kippur
I always have a hard time with this. I suppose others do, as well. I have been in therapy for over twenty years, and I find therapists usually emphasize concentrating on one’s own feelings. Not that one should intentionally cause someone else pain, but let the other person take care of his/her feelings, while you take care of your own. Well, actually, in couples’ therapy there is more of an emphasis on paying attention to each other’s feelings. I think the best “derech” (path) for me in this matter would be to let go of grudges, of childhood angers that can’t be changed. At the same time, I need to continue to acknowledge my anger and not squelch it. If this post is now rambling, I’ll let you know I’m writing and erasing, writing and erasing. Not quite sure what to say; however, the desire to say something exists.
So now I’ll write a general “I’m sorry,” (to anyone in the blogosphere who may have been offended by anything I wrote) because that’s the easiest way to deal with this.
I tried asking my six-year-old daughter forgiveness yesterday for the way too many times I lose my temper with her. She didn’t get it. Maybe I’ll try again on Wednesday, Erev Yom Kippur (eve of Yom Kippur).